Dont Stop Talking
My 4-year-old won't stop talking. She literally talks from 7 a.m. to 8 p.m. She says "mommy" 5,000 times a day and insists I respond to every sentence out of her mouth. I am losing my mind and feel horrible saying this, but I can't stand her voice lately. How can I put up with my chatty child without being a mean parent?
Dont Stop Talking
Free thesaurus definition of to stop talking or to not say anything from the Macmillan English Dictionary - a free English dictionary online with thesaurus and with pronunciation from Macmillan Education.
In examining which types of people are more or less likely to stop talking to someone about political news, four characteristics stand out: party and ideology, race and ethnicity, the medium relied on most for political news, and engagement with political news.
In another area of difference, half of white Americans have stopped talking politics with someone, compared with roughly one-third of black and Hispanic adults. And those who say they rely most on local TV for their political and election news are far less likely to have stopped talking with someone about politics than any other group, such as those who mostly get this news through news websites or cable TV.
Examined by party, Democrats and independents who lean Democratic are more likely to have stopped conversing with someone about politics because of something they said than Republicans and independents who lean Republican: 50% vs. 41%, respectively.
But an even more striking contrast emerges from ideological groups within each party. A high-water mark of 60% of liberal Democrats say they have stopped talking politics with someone, compared with 41% of Democrats who are moderate or conservative.
On the Republican side, only 36% of moderate and liberal members of the party say they have stopped talking to someone. Conservative Republicans also lag well behind the liberal Democrats, with 45% saying they have dropped someone from their conversations about political news.
Race and ethnicity are also associated with the decision to stop talking to someone about political news. A full 50% of white adults say they have made that decision, which is considerably higher than the percentage of black (37%) and Hispanic (34%) adults who say they have stopped talking to someone about political news.
There may be any number of reasons for this fear. They may be afraid that silence signals a mistake of some kind. Or uncertainty. Or a lack of mastery over their content. As noted in a previous post, sometimes it is because they are afraid that if they stop talking, someone will ask a question.
Cocaine is a powerful substance that makes it hard to turn off your mind. One systematic review found that people taking this drug found it harder to fall asleep and slept for less time. Cocaine also stopped the subjects from entering REM sleep, the stage of the sleep cycle associated with dreaming.
It sounds easy, but listening and waiting can be hard work. Harder than talking. Talking, after all, is a form of self-stimulation. When I am tired, I tend to overtalk, create brilliant mini-lectures, or digress into personal experience, as the student sinks into silence and passivity.
It also helps to praise kids in a way that builds self-esteem. Point out when they managed to stop talking before it became too much. The more specific you can be with your praise, the more motivated kids will be to keep working at it.
Humans talk about themselves roughly 30-40% of the time. That's a lot. Studies have shown that talking about ourselves is strongly associated with increased activity in the mesolimbic dopamine system, the same part of our brain that experiences pleasure through things like food, sex, and money. The good news is, knowing how our brains work and react is half the battle. Once you know the why, you can start controlling the how.
Find the reason he could be talking a lot in class, from competing for attention to a lack of physical activity. Ask open ended questions, and together, come up with solutions he can try. Practice turn-taking and back-and-forth conversations at home, praising him when he makes an effort.
Starting when the babies were 7 to 9 months old, the researchers visited each house for one hour, once a month, for 2 1/2 years. They showed up generally in the late afternoon, with a cassette recorder, a clipboard and a stopwatch and tried to fade into the background. They were there to record the number of words spoken around the children, as well as the quality and types of interaction (for example, a question versus a command), and the growth in words produced by the children themselves.
He is one of many to have pointed out that the low-income families in their sample may have been intimidated into silence by the presence of a researcher, especially someone of another race. Educated parents, though, might be more likely to show off by talking more when an observer is present.
Let's say you're talking to the CEO of a large, iconic company who is about to retire, and you noticed a row of empty boxes along the wall of the CEO's office. You might start with the question, "How hard is it for you to leave this job?" This will lead to a much deeper and more emotionally revealing discussion, and it never would've happened had you not noticed those boxes.
Two Harvard neuroscientists did a series of studies to understand how talking about ourselves affects our brains. Using brain image scanners they monitored the blood flow between neurons to see what happened.
Listening will change your relationships. Just think of what would happen in your marriage, with your kids, with your friends and colleagues if you communicated that they were important and appreciated. Express your care and respect by listening instead of talking about yourself.
The first step to stopping backtalk is to talk with your child during a quiet time and lay down some ground rules. Discussions about these rules are critical to good communication and cooperation down the road.
This is such a useful article. I have an emotional and confrontational 13 year old with ADHD. He has always backtalked and I find it very hard to handle. He was often in trouble at school for his inability to handle his emotions and I was regularly called with complaints from teachers about his behaviour. I have tried to be very strict about his behaviour, but I realize now that I am hypersensitive which leads me to overreact and escalate the situation instead of keeping my cool. I need to set a better example and not take it personally, for my own sake as much as his. I'm still not sure how exactly to enforce consequences which help him learn more appropriate communication, but at least I can stop feeling rung out and exhausted by the confrontations.
I have a 14 year old son who chats with another girl at school when he's supposed to be doing homework. I tell him to stop every time, and yet I still catch him chatting in the study room all the time. He tries to deny it, but I can clearly see with my own eyes that he is chatting. He knows that I have been looking through his chats before and uses that fact to his advantage.
Real and perceived speech delays are not uncommon in babies and toddlers. In fact as many of 10% of all children suffer from a voice, speech or swallowing disorder that they may later overcome. Addressing the needs of a child with speech delays early on, while challenging, is still less traumatic than facing a child who is already well on their way to full speech and suddenly stops talking.
Surprisingly, this scenario is far more common than you may imagine. We frequently get questions from parents who are startled when their little ones suddenly stop speaking both at home and in social settings.
Rubie, I am so sorry to hear this. Have you had your daughter checked by an EENT doctor? That she stopped talking after the fever and (traumatic) swab may suggest that her hearing faculty got impaired, which might also explain why she is quieter now. Please have an ear doctor or pediatrician check her out. Best of luck.
Hi I am Priyanka. My daughter is 16 months old now. When she was 10-12 month old, she used to say dada, mama, baba, but after that she stopped saying anything. I am very worried about her. She watched too much TV after, from the past two months, and then we noticed that suddenly she stopped speaking. So now, I totally stopped TV for her. I only give her cartoons while she is eating meals. I am doing it for 1 month now but she is still not saying anything. I tried to say to her mama, dada, but she never calls out to us anymore. If I tell her to give something to mama, sometimes she does, but she never gives anything to dada. She is not responding much. I am so worried ?
My daughter is 34 months now. She started first words around one year of age but she stopped talking all together when she was 32 months. She was able to speak many words and phrases before she stopped talking. She is scared of the tree in the front yard and wants to close the curtains all the time. She is also afraid of the washer and dryer at home. Now she could only point at things with mmm sounds. She is not able to produce any vowels and consonants. Her doctor thought it could be autism because she did not make much eye contact with us. However, I heard that autism with language regression usually happened earlier than 2 years of age with fewer words, so I am wondering if this could be selective mutism related to her phobia. Any parents had similar situation please share your thoughts and experience. Thank you!
We have a 4,5 year old son, and it sounds like we are going through some of the same issues. He used to be very, very verbal, but he stopped talking altogether last year in June when he was 3.5. We have been to a pediatrician, a psychiatrist, a psychologist, we are going to get him tested for autism, etc. I know it is heart breaking. We were told by our psychiatrist that children can go through trauma even when there are no evident external factors. I think with the pandemic, it is understandable that some children decide to revert to an earlier stage in their lives. It is the not knowing what is going on that makes it so hard. I wish you all much strength. 041b061a72